The Christmas season always reminds me of what a bad actor I am. For all the church plays and Christmas pageants I was in growing up, I’ve never once had a good part. I’ve always been Man #2, or Guy Sitting in Chair #3. One time I had a solo but that’s only because I hadn’t hit puberty yet and could still hit the girl notes. I don’t blame anyone for this but myself. I’m not a good actor. I’m also not a good liar because of it.
[Man #2 sits at desk and stares at the ceiling.]
I’m not the only bad actor out there, and I’m not just talking about Zac Efron. True, some people can act like they’re in a good mood when they’re not. Some people can hide their feelings of embarrassment. But from what I’ve seen, no one seems to be a good actor when it comes to acting like we’re not jealous.
Jealousy has a power over us like no other role. It doesn’t allow for any makeup or special effects. It shows up loud and clear no matter much we say or don’t say. If it’s there, it’s obvious.
The other part we all have in common is that we all struggle with it. We all look at other people and what they have, and at some point we want something that they have and that we don’t have. Not all the time. Maybe for some of you it’s not even that often. But for some of us, jealousy is hogging the spotlight.
I’ve come to find that nothing exposes our insecurities like jealousy. When we’re jealous, it’s hard to fake it. Other people getting what we want can be tough, especially if we feel we deserve it as well. If not more than them. If you want to know where you’re insecure, pay attention to what kind of good things in other people’s lives annoys you.
Isn’t it kind of sick how other people’s happiness can make us upset? We say things like, “Must be nice,” but our jealousy speaks louder than our words. Then it gets even better when we make excuses for why someone else has something we don’t. “They have rich parents.” “They are naturally better looking than me.” “I wasn’t given a brain like that.” “It’s not my fault my facial hair comes in this way.” Jealousy has memorized tons of those kinds of lines. Jealousy is evil and will go to great lengths to make you look stupid.
[Man #2 loosens sweatpants and takes off socks.]
So is there any hope against this scene-hogging jealousy if we all have it? I would say yes. For me it starts with prayer. Prayer that I would generally be happy for people that I really do care about when they get something good in their life. I don’t want to be Bummer-man who can’t be happy for my friends. I want to be able to rejoice with those who rejoice, and I want them to want to rejoice with me when I have times of rejoicing. I can’t expect people to come to my parties if I’m not going to theirs.
Next, I would focus on why I want what I want and do not yet have. What’s my motive for wanting it? To feel included? To feel like I’m keeping up? To make me feel like I’m worth something? All of those wants can’t usually be satisfied by something we can see or touch. They can only be satisfied by what is unseen. How many millionaires do we have to see lose their minds before we understand that our purpose goes deeper than possessions?
Maybe you’ve got other ways of getting over your jealousy, and I think we’d all love to hear some if you’d like to share them on here. Let’s not let our jealousy ruin what should be good moments for other people, and could also be good moments for us. Especially with our friends. The way I want to see it is that if my friends are doing well, then that’s good for me. Because we represent each other.
Be a team player. Remember, there’s no “i” in “Why can’t you just be happy for me?”
[Man #2 drops mic and walks off stage.]
[Man #2 eats Mexican food for the second time today.]