This is a guest post by my friend Mike Evans. He wrote this and sent it to me, and I really wanted to share it.
In the beginning, God created…and he said it was good.
We’ve heard these words.
They hold little value and we don’t take a look at what is being noted.
First off, I’m not a theologian but I am a counselor. Not like a camp counselor that goes on camping trips and helps organize flag football games during summer, but counselor as in mental health therapy. I get to help people with whatever mental health or addiction concerns they’re having at this point in their life. Overall, it’s a pretty sweet job.
There have been some counseling sessions this week where I’ve been working with people that are going through some depression at this point in their lives, and particularly, their self esteem is being messed with. There are a few different ways depression can look or manifest itself, but definitely one of the common symptoms are feeling and thoughts of worthlessness and lowered self esteem.
People will esteem…value, appreciate, respect, admire, regard (those are the words that thesaurus pulled up when I right clicked on “esteem”) …themselves lowly. Depression low balls your self-worth.
Tells you you’re not good, pretty, smart, hot, worthy enough.
Sadly, there’s this view that self-praising means you’re being prideful. If you give yourself a compliment it can come off as cocky. These negative statements and thoughts become this emotional junk food, so people carry on being emotionally malnourished because we keep ingesting all this emotional junk food that makes us feel lethargic, fatigued, and just overall crappy but for some reason we keep consuming it.
I gave these clients a homework assignment that I often give out in the beginning:
-Come up with 10 positive statements about yourself. 3 have to be about your physical body
-Read them to yourself at least 3x a day (for extra credit say them to yourself in the mirror)
-Repeat for 30 days.
– For those eager to move forward, start to give one compliment a day to someone else
Just like starting to develop healthy eating habits, it’s pretty uncomfortable at first because it’s new and not used to it. It’s easier to add healthy stuff along the way than it is to try to eliminate negative stuff altogether first.
If our first introduction to God is him doing something and calling it good, I think that sets a precedence of something we should follow. If God was able to give himself a compliment after looking at what he did, and it not commit the sin of pride, I’m fairly certain God is cool with you giving yourself compliments and recognizing your worth.
In the beginning…of the morning, call yourself good, smart, pretty, handsome, creative, fun, caring …and don’t forget 3 about your physical body.