I love good news! There is so much bad news out there today. Good news comes in like a hamburger in the middle of a vegan restaurant. Especially when I’m the one giving the good news.
I’ll never forget the night I got engaged. I was so excited, and even better, my friends were excited. My friends were texting me with !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and smiley faces, and the friends we got to see were hugging us and laughing. There was so much rejoicing! It was one of the best nights of my life.
I don’t forget people who rejoice with me. However, I’ve learned to avoid people who aren’t good at rejoicing when I get good news. You have to be careful when sharing good news. Some friends can really take the wind out of your sails. When I’m excited, there are some people I avoid.
I don’t want to be someone people avoid with good news. I want to rejoice with those who rejoice.
Let me give you an example of someone I share good news with. I saved this text message because it meant so much to me. This is my oldest friend in the world, Brandon Noel. (He’s written on the site a few times.) This was his response when I told him I got hired at the job I am at now; the job I desperately needed, and wanted.
This didn’t mean a lot to me because it fed my ego or I needed people to bow down to my awesomeness. This meant a lot to me because I had someone in my life who counted my joy as his joy. Brandon knows how to get excited for his friends, and that’s why his friends love him, too. He’s always been like that.
A lot of people have unspoken competitions with their friends. They want to make more money, be married first, or want their kid to be team captain. It’s true. So many of us compete with people who don’t even realize they are in a competition we made up. I decided a while back I don’t want to compete with my friends.
Instead, I came to this conclusion: When my friends do well, that’s good for me, too, because they are my friends. I’ve tried to mentally make a note to rejoice with those who rejoice. I think some of us have to make a mental note because it doesn’t always come naturally. But the more you do it, the more it becomes part of who you are.
Celebration is way more fun than cynicism. Come get in on this party. We’re having a great time!